I've spent a few hours the last few weeks flying on "The Syndicate" Rise of Flight Server. This is where I fly, because:
1. Best missions - I find very well thought out missions, many with AI Recon flights and mostly historical plane sets. Even when the server population is low, you have something to shoot at.
2. Well behaved pilots (my experience)
3. Great connection speeds and bandwidth. I've noticed no network related performance hits.
TB turned me on to this server. Most of the veteran community flies there. They use Ventrillo (I don't know why - but hey, it's a free program anyway).
Their forum page is here:
http://paddyjed.proboards.com/index.cgiVentrillo connect info (and download) is at the bottom left of the homepage.
This is THE PLACE to be for full-real ROF, adult flying.
S!
Gunny